People express love in different ways and no relationship is the same, which is why polyamory and the ability to have a relationship with more than one person has become an increasingly common topic of discussion.
However, although most people have heard the term polyamory, not everyone is clear on the meaning or the logistics of how these non-monogamous relationships work.
Polyamory, which is defined as loving more than one person, is often mistakenly considered the same as an open relationship – which is not always the case.
In reality, polyamorous relationships are unique in that they are comprised of multiple, loving partnerships.
People who are polyamorous can be heterosexual, lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and relationships between polyamorous people can include combinations of people of different sexual orientations.
The only thing constant in this world is change, and in a free relationship this isn’t just your reality; it’s your mantra.
A person in a monogamous relationship with the love of their life has become attracted to someone else; an escort whom they know well and have been seeing on and off since before this relationship.
They want to suggest polyamory but are obviously afraid of the consequences of revealing not only their desire for an intimate relationship with more than one partner but that they are also in a relationship with an escort.
What should they do?
First, know that scenarios like this are not uncommon and will come up on both sides. At the end of the day, having a second person to navigate the complexities of life is the joy of being in a relationship.
Why is it that in romantic connections we accept that we have to share the good and bad our humanity, but when it comes to our natural drive to desire and be desired by others, we all want our partners to believe we’re superhuman?
Many people need an opportunity to explore this connection with “someone else” – and that someone else is sometimes an escort – without impinging on your primary partnership. Interest and engagement are very different things.
Often, relationships with escorts are catalysts for change. Sometimes the reasons why two people never worked out may become clearer. Other times, maybe through this exploration a person will decide that they can actually improve all their relationships by allowing them to be in full, balanced expression.
A person may be looking for a free relationship—defined not by the rules or titles they chose in the beginning, but by how each partner feels at any given time.
A relationship is yours to experience, not to control. Is it wrong to need a relationship that gives you space to flirt, connect and gain clarity?