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After reading an article in the London Post about transsexual escorts and how for some clients ‘climaxing with a transgender escort is not only a sexual act that they have paid for, but a very sacred act between two people in a very intimate and delicate manner.’

Maybe this is the reason why a trans escort would charge extra for this service and the client will be more than willing to pay for this? Who knows.

The truth is little is known about men’s sexual desire for and erotic attraction to male-to-female transgender women. We found a fascinating article entitled ‘The Role of the Illusion in the Construction of Erotic Desire: Narratives from Heterosexual Men Who Have Occasional Sex with Transgender Women.’

Actually it is more of a study, which examines the narratives of a sample of heterosexual men who had an occasional sexual encounter with a transgender woman. The findings are incredibly interesting, if not altogether surprising.

Let’s face it, today’s society is being misled somewhat by mainstream porn, which implies anyone with a penis, be they cis men, non-binary people, or trans women, prefer intense, rigorous stroking until they squirt semen. While not every trans woman uses estrogen, many (if not most) of us do, and their bodies work so much differently than cis men’s on hormone replacement therapy (or HRT).

The truth is, however, cisgender women are just as prone to cis men when it comes to believing and regurgitating these unrealistic stereotypes, often based on Tinder hookups and just general interactions with cis girls and couples on Tinder, and, of course, the highly fetishised pornography where girls with thick, throbbing cocks shoot wads of cum.

There’s a complete lack of even basic understanding of trans people, how their medication works. Some trans women have penises but feel uncomfortable using them during sex. Others are fine having their cocks touched but refrain from topping or penetrative sex. And many trans women are post-operative and do not have penises at all; instead, they have vaginas.

In some cases, non-operative trans women have a penis (which they prefer to call a “clit,” “cock,” or “girldick”) and have elected not to change their genital configuration. Because HRT feminizes their bodies, their clits often have soft, thin skin that prefers gentle stimulation. By all extents, it’s a feminine penis.

And, anecdotally speaking, many so called punters express a desire to have sex with a trans woman if she possesses physical characteristics that are stereotypically feminine. Many explain the importance of viewing their trans woman sexual partner(s) as ‘real’ women or cisgender women. Some are able to incorporate trans women into their personal definitions of women, while others emphasise the differences between trans women and cisgender women and do not perceive trans women as ‘real women.’

The Role of the Illusion in the Construction of Erotic Desire: Narratives from Heterosexual Men Who Have Occasional Sex with Transgender Women

Orgasmic Climax with transsexual escorts.

Why Torrey Peters’s debut novel could be the first great trans realist novel.

Chatting with a trans woman recently about the highs and lows of being an independent transsexual escort in London, opened our eyes about what it means to exist as a gendered being in the world, particularly for those trans women who wrestle with questions of adult work, motherhood and family making.

In Detransition, Baby, the story is centered on Reese, a 35-year-old trans woman living in Brooklyn, USA who longs for motherhood — but is in a rut of risky sex with married men. Then her ex, Ames, adds a snag by asking her to help him raise a baby with his new girlfriend. Reese isn’t just angry at the request, she’s furious because she was in love with Ames when she was Amy, before she decided to “detransition” and go back to “living as a man,” as the author Torrey Peters says, because of the transphobia she faced.

The novel certainly makes a careful distinction between “being trans”, which it treats as a condition of desire, and “doing trans” depicts the way a transphobic world erodes the commitments and saps the resources of trans people, until it can seem like our only option.

But what we found really fascinating about Detransition, Baby,  is that you’re not always getting into the physical act as much as you are getting into the emotional reasons behind it and the ideas of performance or vulnerability.

Is it safe to assume men, women — not just trans or non-binary people —  but everybody can relate to that in some way because “good sex” is what most people want. But we don’t know how to get it? Food for thought.

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters available in the Amazon bookstore.

In Brazil the struggles of trans women are deeply connected and embedded in a women’s movement – transgender, transvestite, indigenous, black; they fight together, side by side. There is no separation. They all face the poverty, the violence, the difficult life as women. It is a class issue, but one framed by shocking violations of human rights.

Brazil leads the world rankings for the greatest [number of] trans and transvestite murders. According to ANTRA (Brazil’s National Association of Transvestites and Transsexuals), Brazil accounted for 124 cases of [transgender] murders in 2019. Eleven trans people are beaten per day in Brazil due to their gender identity. They lack security, affection, opportunity and equity.

Many are unreported or misreported. Life expectancy is 30-35.  According to the Associação Nacional de Travestis e Transexuais, who also report the murders, over half of the victims die on the street and 80% show signs of torture.

In an extraordinary interview, published earlier this month by The English Collective of Prostitutes, Natalia, a trans woman from Brazil now living in the UK, talks about the trauma of being a trans woman in Brazil. She also uses the term “travesty”, in recognition of the culture in which she grew up – a culture of degradation and oppression.

In fact, it is probably accurate to say that trans women are part of a heavily persecuted nano minority that manages to have the minimum access, care and basic rights of a human being. Most trans women living in Brazil don’t even have security in their own homes. And those who manage to have the minimum [level] of safety and comfort in their home, let alone out on the street

Frustration is another word to describe the feeling of living in Brazil as a trans woman. It is frustrating to see how vulnerable, invisible and marginalised they are. The cis gender and heteronormative parts of society puts trans women in a cruel, predefined box of what it means to be a transvestigenere body.

As well as talking about when and what made her choose to transition, Natalie, who was thrown out onto to streets by her mother at the age of 12 and lived for many years in a discarded building with trans women and transvestites, gives a candid account of what is it like to be a trans woman in Brazil, which she describes as a “very sexist, racist and transphobic place to be.” She also talks about what the effect of the pandemic has had on her.

Coronavirus has devastated communities the world over, but in Brazil’s favelas – the tightly packed slums that crowd the country’s biggest urban hotspots – it has been particularly merciless. The pandemic has exposed inequalities even down to the official data that can be collected: as of 23 October, Brazil had exceeded five million confirmed cases, and over 156,000 recorded deaths, but many have pointed out that those figures don’t extend to the favelas, where poverty, poor access to healthcare and overcrowded living conditions have proved lethal.

You can read the full interview with Natalie here.

The English Collective of Prostitutes (ECP) is a network of sex workers working both on the streets and indoors campaigning for decriminalisation and safety.

Main Image by Ian Cheibub, a visual storyteller based in Rio de Janeiro studying media at Universidade Federal Fluminense. You can visit Ian’s page here.